//podcastplus.net/feed/how-to-stop-wanting-him-back~e21e25f8 Heartbreak coach, Claire Byrne, breaks down exactly how you can finally STOP wanting your ex back on this podcast that is unlike any other heartbreak podcast out there! Heartbreak is messy, painful and overwhelmingly daunting at times, but it can also be the gateway to embark on a new journey beyond your wildest dreams if you LET it. You will laugh, you will cry, and have your own mind BLOWN, by how POSSIBLE it will be for you to THRIVE from heartbreak, versus barely survive. After years of enduring toxic relationships, and being at a loss on how to navigate through the pain, Claire is now dedicated to helping other women like her, not only STOP wanting him back, but become the best version of themselves, BECAUSE of the heartbreak. PLEASE NOTE: Claire refers to her exes and the listener’s ex as a “he,” based on her own personal experience as a heterosexual female, but this work can be applied to ANYONE going through heartbreak. ALL genders and sexual orientations are encouraged to listen and apply Claire’s tools into their own lives! Tue, 15 Sep 2026 13:07:54 +0000 https://anchor.fm/s/3713c054/podcast/play/19721603/https%3A%2F%2Fd3ctxlq1ktw2nl.cloudfront.net%2Fstaging%2F2020-8-16%2F108044682-44100-2-019068dac509cb67.mp3 These words are so powerful. I was recently working with a client, and when these words rolled off her tongue, and it made my heart soar. She came to me because she’s been in a relationship for several years that has not been serving her, and I’ve been coaching her through it, and when she said this, it was so empowering and was full of self-love and self-ownership. In this episode, I share with you the importance of being able to identify when this thought is helpful, versus when it comes from a place of feeling whiney. If your result that you are working for is to stop wanting him or her back, then you have to believe in your bones that you will not settle for less than you deserve, and that begins with showing up, doing the work, and falling the fuck in love with yourself. Topics in this episode Your thoughts create your results. When you commit your brain to the result that you want, you will figure it out.  Check yourself with your self-coaching Pining for someone who doesn’t see the ... Mon, 14 Sep 2020 10:00:03 +0000 https://anchor.fm/s/3713c054/podcast/play/19721603/https%3A%2F%2Fd3ctxlq1ktw2nl.cloudfront.net%2Fstaging%2F2020-8-16%2F108044682-44100-2-019068dac509cb67.mp3 https://anchor.fm/s/3713c054/podcast/play/19721643/https%3A%2F%2Fd3ctxlq1ktw2nl.cloudfront.net%2Fstaging%2F2020-8-16%2F108044724-44100-2-c1b6e2bb08abb102.mp3 I was recently talking with a friend who is newly in love. She has asked another friend of hers, who is single, to hang out with her and her new partner, but the friend has turned her down because she didn’t want to be the third wheel. This is a topic I’ve also talked about with clients and listeners before as well. Instead of holding onto feelings that aren’t serving you, what if you turned it around and you used the couple that you were spending time with as evidence of what’s possible for you? In this episode, I share with you why it is so important to manage your mind around enjoying these friendships, and how to get over your victim story in order to call love in.  Topics in this episode Finding love during a pandemic Looking for moments when your heartbreak is serving you versus hurting you You must be willing to lean into the pain and take responsibility Whiney victimhood is never going to serve you.  It all starts with your mind, and with an appreciation for what is. Use the... Mon, 07 Sep 2020 10:00:18 +0000 https://anchor.fm/s/3713c054/podcast/play/19721643/https%3A%2F%2Fd3ctxlq1ktw2nl.cloudfront.net%2Fstaging%2F2020-8-16%2F108044724-44100-2-c1b6e2bb08abb102.mp3 https://anchor.fm/s/3713c054/podcast/play/19721619/https%3A%2F%2Fd3ctxlq1ktw2nl.cloudfront.net%2Fstaging%2F2020-8-16%2F108044732-44100-2-ceafc1192430d3a3.mp3 This episode is inspired by the work that I have been doing with a client recently. She was dating this guy and said that she was falling in love with him, but also recognized that he wasn’t emotionally available and showing up for her in ways that were very important. When I asked her why she was falling in love, it really boiled down to the fact that he was doing small gestures for her. Ladies. A sweet gesture is not enough of a reason to be in love with someone who is not showing up for you emotionally. I’m sure many of you listeners can relate to her experience, and in this episode, I dive deep into what it looks like when you’re setting the bar too low, how to establish the values that are important to you, and calling in love in your ideal relationship.  Topics in this episode The 5 love languages: Quality time Physical touch Words of affirmation Acts of service Gifts Attachment styles You should never have to guess your partner’s level of interest The small things are ... Mon, 31 Aug 2020 10:00:25 +0000 https://anchor.fm/s/3713c054/podcast/play/19721619/https%3A%2F%2Fd3ctxlq1ktw2nl.cloudfront.net%2Fstaging%2F2020-8-16%2F108044732-44100-2-ceafc1192430d3a3.mp3 https://anchor.fm/s/3713c054/podcast/play/19721651/https%3A%2F%2Fd3ctxlq1ktw2nl.cloudfront.net%2Fstaging%2F2020-8-16%2F108044766-44100-2-dcbb7aa5ee7b725a.mp3 Some of you listening may think, “Claire, I am totally emotionally available. It’s the guys I’m attracting who are emotionally unavailable.” I call bullshit, in the most loving way. Like attracts like. If you’re thinking you’re emotionally available, but you keep attracting emotionally unavailable men, there is something in you that is emotionally unavailable. In this episode, I share with you the journey I’ve been through when I was emotionally unavailable, and how I got myself, and work with my clients, to get through this, so they can change their thoughts, and call Mr. Right in.  Topics in this episode Where are you being noncommittal, in your dating life, and with yourself?  The work comes from your thoughts. Your thoughts create your results. Think, feel, and behave as the woman in her ideal relationship  Why deadlines are helpful and how to assess our progress if we don’t meet the deadline for a goal  It’s not about how many dates you went on, it’s about the min... Mon, 24 Aug 2020 10:00:13 +0000 https://anchor.fm/s/3713c054/podcast/play/19721651/https%3A%2F%2Fd3ctxlq1ktw2nl.cloudfront.net%2Fstaging%2F2020-8-16%2F108044766-44100-2-dcbb7aa5ee7b725a.mp3 https://anchor.fm/s/3713c054/podcast/play/19721620/https%3A%2F%2Fd3ctxlq1ktw2nl.cloudfront.net%2Fstaging%2F2020-8-16%2F108044726-44100-1-1dac42a316f7c8a9.mp3 Mon, 17 Aug 2020 10:00:09 +0000 https://anchor.fm/s/3713c054/podcast/play/19721620/https%3A%2F%2Fd3ctxlq1ktw2nl.cloudfront.net%2Fstaging%2F2020-8-16%2F108044726-44100-1-1dac42a316f7c8a9.mp3 https://anchor.fm/s/3713c054/podcast/play/19721668/https%3A%2F%2Fd3ctxlq1ktw2nl.cloudfront.net%2Fstaging%2F2020-8-16%2F108044735-44100-1-0a5d29e974aecfe6.mp3 I recently finished reading Wealth Warrior by Steve Chandler, and it inspired the topic of today’s episode; why you’re not doing the work. As I share in each episode, the thought model I use with my clients is the same that my coach uses with me: your thoughts create feelings, that drive actions, that yield you results. In Steve Chandler’s book, he takes a slightly different approach. For his clients are feeling stuck, he tells them to pick something, and go all in. In this episode, I explore this idea a bit more, and how it compliments the thought model I use in my coaching, as well as why you aren’t doing the work, and what it is that’s holding you back from the results you truly desire.  Topics in this episode The 3 reasons you aren’t doing the work You’re not ready You don’t believe it works You are scared of success When you’re suffering, and struggling, and in pain, you’re probably not motivated to do the work.  What makes me the coach I am today Why I always s... Mon, 10 Aug 2020 10:00:33 +0000 https://anchor.fm/s/3713c054/podcast/play/19721668/https%3A%2F%2Fd3ctxlq1ktw2nl.cloudfront.net%2Fstaging%2F2020-8-16%2F108044735-44100-1-0a5d29e974aecfe6.mp3 https://anchor.fm/s/3713c054/podcast/play/19721625/https%3A%2F%2Fd3ctxlq1ktw2nl.cloudfront.net%2Fstaging%2F2020-8-16%2F108044719-44100-1-b82709541b6afc2a.mp3 In this episode, I want to discuss vulnerability and the vulnerability in your dating life. This topic was inspired by some of my clients, and coaching them to realize that getting what you desire, getting to that ideal relationship, requires us to be vulnerable. We have to lean into the suck, lean into the pain, and know that what’s on the other side, and being in our ideal relationship with Mr. or Ms. Right is worth it.  In this episode, I share with you some personal experiences with vulnerability, especially in my current relationship, as well as sharing some of the coachings I have done to help my clients have difficult conversations with the people they are dating, in order to get them the results they want. By the end of this episode, I want you to know that when you are vulnerable, and when you choose you, you win.  Topics in this episode Defining vulnerability Your two choices: Stay small and safe, out of fear Step into your vulnerability and get results  You can create anything... Mon, 03 Aug 2020 10:00:11 +0000 https://anchor.fm/s/3713c054/podcast/play/19721625/https%3A%2F%2Fd3ctxlq1ktw2nl.cloudfront.net%2Fstaging%2F2020-8-16%2F108044719-44100-1-b82709541b6afc2a.mp3 https://anchor.fm/s/3713c054/podcast/play/19721685/https%3A%2F%2Fd3ctxlq1ktw2nl.cloudfront.net%2Fstaging%2F2020-8-16%2F108044856-44100-1-948cafee68c98d84.mp3 I really wanted to make an episode about this because I make a guarantee to all my clients that come to me, that they will get the results they are looking for if they do the work. I am able to make this guarantee because I know that it works and that your thoughts create your results. Mon, 27 Jul 2020 10:00:14 +0000 https://anchor.fm/s/3713c054/podcast/play/19721685/https%3A%2F%2Fd3ctxlq1ktw2nl.cloudfront.net%2Fstaging%2F2020-8-16%2F108044856-44100-1-948cafee68c98d84.mp3 https://anchor.fm/s/3713c054/podcast/play/19721622/https%3A%2F%2Fd3ctxlq1ktw2nl.cloudfront.net%2Fstaging%2F2020-8-16%2F108044720-44100-1-809d1e318edaef39.mp3 I received a message from a listener of the podcast, and she said that listening to this podcast inspired her to leave a partner who was not treating her well. She’s been really picking up what I’ve been putting down about how our thoughts create our results. She was nursing the wounds of someone else not treating her well, and so when she entered into a new relationship, she had fears that he would fuck her over. Mon, 20 Jul 2020 10:00:03 +0000 https://anchor.fm/s/3713c054/podcast/play/19721622/https%3A%2F%2Fd3ctxlq1ktw2nl.cloudfront.net%2Fstaging%2F2020-8-16%2F108044720-44100-1-809d1e318edaef39.mp3 https://anchor.fm/s/3713c054/podcast/play/19721683/https%3A%2F%2Fd3ctxlq1ktw2nl.cloudfront.net%2Fstaging%2F2020-8-16%2F108044843-44100-1-a310450bd1d37821.mp3 Why do men disappear? This is a very commonly asked question from people on social media, and it has actually been a running theme for a couple of my clients. One client in particular came to me wanting to heal her heart about her past relationships and she’s moving through the process of wanting to love herself so beautifully, and she’s ready to online date again. Mon, 13 Jul 2020 10:00:10 +0000 https://anchor.fm/s/3713c054/podcast/play/19721683/https%3A%2F%2Fd3ctxlq1ktw2nl.cloudfront.net%2Fstaging%2F2020-8-16%2F108044843-44100-1-a310450bd1d37821.mp3